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After 22 years of marriage,I have discovered the secret tokeep love and intimacy alive in my relationship with my wife,Peggy:I started dating another woman.
It was Peggy's idea,actually,"you know you love her,"shesaid one day,taking me in surprise.（注：take me in surprise.使我非常惊讶。）"Life is too short,you need to spend timewith the people who you love.You probably won't believe me,but I think that if the two of you spend more time together,it will make us closer."
The "other"woman my wife was encouraging me to date is mymother,a 72-year-old widow who has lived alone since myfather died 20 years ago.Right after his death,I moved 2,500miles away to Califonia and started my own life and career.When I moved back near my hometown six years ago,I promisedmyself that I would spend more time with mom.But with thedemands of my job and three kids,I never got around to（注：get around to=get round to：抽出时间来做（或考虑）。）seeingher much beyond family get-togethers and holidays.
She was surprised and suspicious,then,when I called andsuggested the two of us go out to dinner and a movie."What iswrong?"she asked.My mother thinks anything out of theordinary signals bad news.
"I thought it would be nice to spend some time with you,"Isaid."just the two of us."
"I would like that a lot,"she said.
As I drove to her house,I actually had a case of predatejitters!（注：predate jitters：约会前的紧张不安。）What wouldwe talk about?What if she didn't like the restaurant I chose?
When I pulled into her driveway,she was waiting by the doorwith her coat on.Her hair was curled,and she was smiling."Itold my lady friends I was going out with my son,and theywere all impressed,"she said as she got into my car,"theycan't wait to hear about our evening."
We didn't go anywhere fancy,just a neighborhood place wherewe could talk.My mother clutched my arm,half out of affectionand half to help her negotiate（注：〈口〉顺利通过，成功地越过。）the restaurant steps.
Since her eyes now see only large shapes and shadows,I hadto read the menu for both of us.Halfway through reciting theentrees,（注：在（我）主菜单读到一半时，entree：〈美〉主菜。）I glanced up and saw mother looking at me,a wistful smile onher lip."I used to be the reader when you were little,"shesaid.I understood what she was saying.From care-give to cared-for,from cared-for to care-giver,our relationship had comefull circle."Then it is time for you to relax and let mereturn the favor."I said.
We had a nice talk over dinner.Nothing earth-shattering,justcatching up with each other's lives.We talked for so longthat we missed the movie.
"I will go out with you again."my mother said as I droppedher off,"but only if you let me buy dinner next time."I agreed.
"How was your date?"my wife asked when I got home thatevening."Nice...nicer than I thought it would be,"I said.Shesmiled her told-you-so smile.（注：她笑了，好像在说：我说得没错吧。）
Mom and I go out for dinner a couple of times a month.Sometimes we take in（注：take in：观看（影、剧等）。）amovie,but mostly we talk.I tell her about my trials at workand brag the kids and Peggy.
Mom fills me in on family gossip and tells me about her past.Now I know what it was like for her to work in a factoryduring the second World War.I know how she met my father there,and how they nurtured a trolley car courtship through thosedifficult times.（注：他们如何在那段艰难的时光中培育那段发生在有轨电车上的恋情。trolley car：〈美〉有轨电车。）I can't getenough of these stories.（注：我对这些故事总也听不够。）Theyare important to me,a part of my history.
We also talk about the future.Because of health problems,mymother worries about the days ahead."I have so much living togrow up.I don't want to miss any of it,"
Like many baby boomers,（注：baby boomer：〈美〉这里等于boom.baby.（尤指在第二次世界大战后1947-1961年间）生育高峰期出生的人。）I tend to fill my calendar to the brim（注：fill mycalender to the brim：把我的日程排得满满的。）as I struggleto fit family,career and friendship into my life.I oftencomplain about how quickly time flies.Spending time with mymom has taught me the importance of slowing down,
Peggy was right.Dating another woman has helped my marriage.
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